Here’s some of my favourite emotional education. These resources aren't my own and don't always reflect my views, but I do find them as a good starting place for learning more about ourselves and the world. Feel free to email  additions or corrections if you find them. 

You can use these links to jump to directly to the sections for Emotional Health, Understanding Ourselves, Self Protection (Anxiety, Fear, Anger & Trauma) ,  Attachment & Intimacy, Sexuality and Relationships, Critical Thinking and Favourite Media. 

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Emotional health

 

• What it means to 'Hold Space' -  by Heather Plett
• ​George Saunders' Advice on Being Kind​
• Is self-control just empathy with your future self?
• This humorous interactive guide for self care
• Stuart McMillen’s illustrations of a psychology experiment in kindness gone right
  
• An article on the difference between real compassion and idiot compassion.
  
• Great advice from Refuge in Grief on how to help a friend who is struggling in graphic or video form .
  

 

 Understanding ourselves

Self protection: Anxiety, Fear, Anger & Trauma

 

• A chart detailing sympathetic nervous system states.
• Body College, a great site devoted to personal and professional training around trauma, anxiety and pain.
• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk.
• Steve Haine's books Trauma is Really Strange, Anxiety is Really Strange, and Pain is Really Strange.
• Research and assesment tools for understanding the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs).
• Jessica McCabe's youtube channel How to ADHD.

 

ATTACHMENT & INTIMACY

• A summary of Attachment Theory from Wikipedia. You can also try this online quiz, though consider it an educational experience, rather than an accurate psychological assessment tool. 
• Alain De Botton's article Why you will marry the wrong person. It was the most read article by the New York Times in 2016.
• Stan Tatkin about the brain and love (audio, book)
• The School of Life's Relationship playlist on youtube.

SEXUALITY & RELATIONSHIPS

 

• An illustrated explanation of how arousal works via the Dual Control Model of Sexual Excitement (plus other great sex education comics).​​
• Come As You Are, a scientifically-grounded explanation of human sexuality by researcher Dr. Emily Nagoski.
•  LGBTQ+ stories from the It Gets Better Project about how life can improve as we accept our sexual and gender identities. 
• More Than Two, a website to learn about how polyamorous relationships work.

 

Critical thinking

• Ray Dalio's Principles for better thinking.
• A summary of Kahneman's Thinking Fast and Slow.
• A great article on Survivorship Bias​​ by David McRaney, host of the You Are not So Smart podcast.
• The best headspace for making big decisions.
• Wikipedia's long, humbling list of cognitive biases.
• A Fixed mindset versus a Growth mindset.​​
• Andy Weir's short story The Egg. 
• The Myth of Self Control.

Great video Series

 

Quality Podcasts

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